I read an article in "The Davis Enterprise" today
about teenagers trick-or-treating.
And I have to admit, I started thinking
"this is another cut-the-special-needs-kids-some-slack-and-let-them-trick-or-treat" thing.
and my heart got a little weary.
And the woman wrote about how she was uncomfortable with teenage trick-or-treaters
until her son was fifteen
and went trick-or-treating with his friends
and how she hoped people would be kind to them.
And it made me cry a little...
because I like the way she wrote it
and because I wanted people to be kind too
and because I want people to be that way with my kids, too.
It also made me cry a little
because sometimes all people see about my girl are her special needs
and because sometimes they don't see it and she is penalized for what she can't help
and because, like the tiny spark of hope that I can't shake,
(and that I have grown to hate
that one day she'll wake up and be vanilla rather than special...)
I think that I may always think that thought
or something similar
and I will always be torn between my desire for her to be treated like
any other little girl
and the little girl who will always have the extra challenge.
Maybe the mom of the teenage boy and I have the same hope
that the world will be kind.
heidi
written: 10/31/13 in response to Marion Franck's article "What You Need to Know About 6 Foot Trick-or-Treaters" in "The Davis Enterprise." You can click on the title of the article for the link.
Happy Halloween! I wasn't going to post today, but my friend, Crystal, posted this article on Facebook and, well, this happened. Have a good night, y'all.
about teenagers trick-or-treating.
And I have to admit, I started thinking
"this is another cut-the-special-needs-kids-some-slack-and-let-them-trick-or-treat" thing.
and my heart got a little weary.
And the woman wrote about how she was uncomfortable with teenage trick-or-treaters
until her son was fifteen
and went trick-or-treating with his friends
and how she hoped people would be kind to them.
And it made me cry a little...
because I like the way she wrote it
and because I wanted people to be kind too
and because I want people to be that way with my kids, too.
It also made me cry a little
because sometimes all people see about my girl are her special needs
and because sometimes they don't see it and she is penalized for what she can't help
and because, like the tiny spark of hope that I can't shake,
(and that I have grown to hate
that one day she'll wake up and be vanilla rather than special...)
I think that I may always think that thought
or something similar
and I will always be torn between my desire for her to be treated like
any other little girl
and the little girl who will always have the extra challenge.
Maybe the mom of the teenage boy and I have the same hope
that the world will be kind.
heidi
written: 10/31/13 in response to Marion Franck's article "What You Need to Know About 6 Foot Trick-or-Treaters" in "The Davis Enterprise." You can click on the title of the article for the link.
Happy Halloween! I wasn't going to post today, but my friend, Crystal, posted this article on Facebook and, well, this happened. Have a good night, y'all.